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Restoring the Lost Child in You

by Joyce Meyer July 2003


God is in the restoration business.

He wants to restore everything the enemy has stolen from us. In Luke 19:10 Jesus said that …the Son of Man came to find and restore the lost (The Message). And in Psalm 23:3 it says, [God] refreshes and restores my life (my self)…. Interestingly enough, the word restore means "to bring back into existence or to an original state." It also means to renew, revive, rebuild, and recondition. One of the things that God desires to restore in each of us is the "lost child"—those childlike qualities we tend to lose as a result of experiencing various difficulties while growing up.

I believe every healthy adult ought to have a child in him. Each of us starts out in life as a child, and as we grow up, we need to protect that child within us. Otherwise, we really can’t enjoy life. It is our childlikeness that enables us to enter and inherit all the blessings Jesus died to give us. What are the qualities of childlikeness? Why are they so important? How are they lost, and how can they be restored? Let’s take a look.

   Satan Is Out to Destroy the Child

All throughout Scripture, we find that Satan is out to destroy the child and God is out to protect it. Think about when Moses was born. Out of fear that the Israelites were growing too great in number, Pharaoh ordered his people to kill every male Hebrew baby by throwing them into the Nile River (see Exodus 1:22). Thousands of years later, Satan worked through King Herod to try and destroy Jesus, the Child of promise. Matthew 2:16 says that Herod ordered every male child in Bethlehem who was two years old and under to be put to death. Thankfully, God had already told Joseph in a dream what Herod was trying to do and had prompted him to go to Egypt until the danger had passed (see verse 13).

While Satan desires to devour children as soon as they are released from the womb (see Revelation 12:4,5). Jesus desires to protect them. In Matthew 19:13 it says that when the disciples began to rebuke the people for bringing their children to Jesus, Jesus rebuked the disciples. He said, …Leave the children alone! Allow the little ones to come to Me, and do not forbid or restrain or hinder them, for of such [as these] is the kingdom of heaven composed (verse 14).

Now, I realize these verses are talking specifically about Moses, Jesus, and the little children that were brought to Jesus, and I’m certainly not trying to take the Bible out of context. However, I do believe there’s a principle here that we can learn. Satan is out to destroy the child, and if he can’t destroy us physically, he’ll try to destroy our childlike nature. When children are born, they are innocent and free from most of the world’s evil influence. I think this makes them more in tune with God and His ways. Satan hates this and sees children as a threat to his kingdom. He is exceedingly fearful of what they might become if left alone. So, like a bully, he often attacks children at a very early age. He knows they are virtually powerless to fight back, so he tries to damage them before they have a chance to grow up and develop a relationship with God. I believe this is one of the reasons why we see so much child abuse in the world today, not to mention the violence of abortion. Realize that if Satan can steal our childlike-ness, he can steal our ability to enjoy life.

     The Causes and Effects of Losing Childlikeness

I believe there are many people living today that have lost all or part of their childhood as a result of Satan’s schemes. For some reason or another, they were forced to grow up too quickly and robbed of a healthy, normal childhood. Consequently, they’re dealing with tremendous emotional problems that are damaging their relationship with God, themselves, and others. Some of the things that happen to steal a person’s childhood include being forced to go to work at a young age to help provide for the family or pay debts. There are other times when a parent becomes very sick, and their child ends up having to take care of them, as well as perform many of the duties children would normally not have to deal with. Other things that can steal a person’s childhood involve not being permitted to play, as well as the devasta­tion that results from experiencing different types of abuse.

Like many others, I was abused in my childhood. The devil didn’t wait until I was an adult to try and destroy me—he started early. Through sexual, verbal, mental, and emotional abuse, Satan set out to devastate me mentally and emotionally, as well as to prevent me from fulfilling God’s plan for my life. I grew up in a dysfunctional home where alcoholism, violence and incest were common. As a result, I hated being a child. To me, being a child meant being pushed around, taken advantage of, controlled, and used. I was very anxious to grow up. There were many nights I’d lie in bed thinking about how it would be when I was an adult and nobody could control me. My plan was to grow up and never allow anyone to hurt me ever again. But this meant I couldn’t trust anyone, and I’d have to take care of myself. That’s one of the main reasons why I started working when I was thirteen. Nobody was giving me anything for free, so by working and having my own money, I didn’t have to ask people for things. Now, I have a worker personality to begin with. So the natural worker in me plus the abuse I received turned me into a workaholic. Work became my best friend, but it also became an idol. It made me feel like I had worth. When I was working and accomplishing things, I felt fulfilled. The problem was, I didn’t know how to relax, and I saw no value in play. I was so out of balance that the only time I could enjoy myself was when ALL of my work was done. And, as most of us know, all of our work is never done—there’s always something else we need to do.

The abuse I suffered and the ways I chose to deal with it caused me to miss out on most of my childhood and lose my childlike qualities. I had no real enjoyment of anything. Occasionally I had fun, but I never knew what real joy was. That’s what happens when we’re forced to grow up too quickly— the joy of living and our God-given childlike qualities are lost. When we experience hardships and abuse that God never intended, our soul—which is our mind, will, and emotions—becomes damaged to some degree. As a result, we begin to think and act in ways that are usually out of balance or wrong altogether. We do this in order to protect ourselves from further hurt and pain. A major step to seeing our childlike qualities restored is to understand what they are and why they’re important.

         The Characteristics of a Child and Their Importance

Over and over, God’s Word describes and refers to believers as children, and 1 believe it’s important for us to understand why. Jesus said in Luke 18:17 that …whoever does not accept and receive and welcome the kingdom of God like a little child [does] shall not in any way enter it [at all]. In a similar way, He said in Matthew 18:3 that …unlessyou repent (change, turn about) and become like little children [trusting, lowly, loving, forgiving], you can never enter the kingdom of heaven [at all], What does it mean to become like a child? It means to take on a free, lighthearted nature—to become loving, forgiving, trusting, and carefree.

For the most part, children believe what they’re told. It’s a child’s nature to trust unless he has experienced something that teaches him otherwise. It’s true that they often ask a lot of questions and want to know how things work, but they don’t get bogged down with figuring and reasoning, which brings confusion. Children are also simple, uncomplicated, and truthful. They say what they mean and mean what they say. They’re not people pleasers. They are free to be themselves and are not overly concerned about what others think. If a child has a friend or relative they really enjoy being around, it is not hard for them to tell that person how much they love them. And if someone hurts a child’s feelings or they get into an argument with a friend, they don’t wait for days to patch things up. It’s usually just a short time until their forgiving nature kicks in, apologies are exchanged, and the situation is forgotten.

I think one of the greatest qualities of a child is their ability to giggle and laugh at just about anything—even something remotely funny. If they’re discouraged or upset because things didn’t go their way, they can usually bounce back pretty quick. No matter what they do, they always seem to have fun. I’ll never forget the time I sent my youngest son, Danny, outside to sweep the patio. He really didn’t want to do it at first. He even grumbled a little under his breath. But he went outside and did it. A few minutes later when I looked out the window to see how he was doing, I saw him sweeping the floor and dancing with the broom. Amazing! But that’s how children are—lighthearted and carefree. If they’re going to do something, they’re going to enjoy it.

Why am 1 taking the time to go over these childlike traits? Because these are the characteristics God wants to restore in us. These are the qualities that make life enjoyable. The truth is God really wants you and me to enjoy our lives. In John 10:10 Jesus said, The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. 1 came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows). So when Jesus comes to live in our hearts, He doesn’t come and put a straight jacket on us, locking us in to a rigid, religious way of life that’s boring and legalistic. He comes to set us free. That doesn’t mean we’re to live sloppy, undisciplined lives. It just means we’re free to follow the leading of the Holy

Spirit and enjoy everything we do.

God doesn’t want us to divide our lives into a section of things we enjoy and a section of things we hate—He wants us to enjoy everything. He doesn’t want us to waste our lives being miserable most of the time and thinking, "Boy, I’ll be glad when this is over so I can go and do this other thing I really enjoy." No. He wants us to look to Him every day to teach us how to enjoy things, such as our spouse, our family, and our home, as well as prayer, Bible study, and going to church. If we’ll let Him, God will even take our routine responsibilities, such as cleaning the house, washing clothes, and going to the grocery store, and make them enjoyable too.

    How Can the Lost Child in You Be Restored?

The bottom line is God wants you and me to enjoy our lives and grow in our relation­ship with Him. He wants us to have the lighthearted, carefree attitude of a child and yet still be responsible. How? By leaning on Him continuously for everything we need, including the strength to do what’s right.

I encourage you to look for the humor in things and learn to laugh at life more. The Bible says that laughter is like medicine, and the joy of the Lord is our strength (see Proverbs 17:22; Nehemiah 8:10). The other thing you need to do is to relax, trust God, and take Him at His Word. He tells us not to worry about what we’re going to wear, what we’re going to eat, or what we’re going to drink because He will take care of it (see Matthew 6:24-34). He is Abba Father, and you and I are His children. Even if our own parents forget us, He will not (see Isaiah 49:15).

I encourage you to let the child that you’re missing be reestablished in your life. Don’t be afraid of childlikeness—let the Lord restore the lost child in you. Make a decision today that you’re going to enjoy the rest of your life. Go to God and say, "Father, You know the things I experienced while growing up as a child, and You see the things I missed out on. I ask You to restore in me the childlike qualities the enemy has stolen. Please show me each day how to enjoy every single thing 1 do. I don’t want to hold on to unforgiveness, and I don’t want to try and figure everything out. I want to walk in love, be quick to forgive, and learn how to trust you with everything. Thank You for giving me Your grace (strength) and restoring the lost child in me. In Jesus’ name, amen."

Becoming like a child

means to take on a

free, lighthearted

nature—to become

loving, forgiving,

trusting, and carefree.


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